ITS HARD TO CHANGE SOMEONE WHEN THEY ARE ALREADY GROWN UP... HOW TRUE IS THAT?!

“You cannot change someone when they are already grown up! You just have to accept them the way they are...

Ever heard someone say that before?

Well, I have personally heard people speak that way before; especially when trying to give an excuse for their repetitive negative behavior.

Today,I have written this blog post, majorly because I have been listening to this statement quite a lot more often than usual ;

“You cannot change a person when they are already grown up...”

Clearly,these are what one would call ‘excuses’ for repetitive negative behavior.

Its not true that its only when one is still young, that they are able to work on their character flaws.

It’s about time we stopped giving excuses like, “I am just being human” to cover up for our character flaws time after time after time...

Yes, it’s true that being a human being means you are not perfect…; but that does not mean we should use it as an excuse to avoid working on ourselves, or working on turning our weaknesses into strengths.

Working on becoming a better person definitely means your relationships with other people will get better.

Its time we stopped with the excuses, and begin to embrace change as a positive thing.

Though it might be true that we are human, and its inevitable for us to make mistakes, it’s about time that we learned to embrace change so we can stop hurting those who are closest to us.

It especially gets boring and becomes frustrating to those closest to us when we keep giving excuses for repetitive negative behavior.

Actually, with time, we end up pushing them far away from us; and that is the moment when they will say, “Enough is enough!”

The truth is; the change process never ends!

As I conclude, let me leave these two quotes here.

On change; “When patterns are broken, new worlds emerge.”-Tuli Kupferberg

On unlearning old negative habits; “Before people can begin something new, they have to end what used to be, and unlearn the old way.”-William Bridges

I personally believe that however hard it might be, throwing out old habits; when you get to realize that it will have a positive impact in your life, and those around you, it becomes a motivation factor for you to change.

So,quit with those excuses and begin working on becoming a better person.

#lifeandrelationships